“The unfolding of your words gives light; it gives understanding to the simple.”- Psalm 119:130
What you say and how you say it really matters. We often times find ourselves in situations where what we really feel just rolls off our tongue and before we know it heads turn. I have often said to many people that the most dangerous weapon in the world is the human tongue. When you open your mouth you can speak life into someone and give them that boost that they need to make it or you can tear them down to the point of not wanting to live.
Most people when communicating don’t always think about what they are going to say before they say it so what is truth to them unconsciously comes out and sometimes it cuts like a knife or destroy like a nuclear bomb. The text today says that your words give light really to who you are. Everybody has days where they may have had a rough time so the way you communicate may be a little rough. It doesn’t make it right, however it does happen. In your day to day communication our goal should be to be mindful of who we are talking to and how we say what we say. The Bible says that we will have to make an account for every word that comes out of our mouth so we are accountable for every word we speak. We have to speak the truth but it is how you say it that counts.
I often think about what I am going to say to a person before I say it so that I don’t have any regrets once it leaves my mouth. I understand one important fact and that is that everyone may not be ready to hear what you have to say so timing is very important. If you communicate something to a person who is not ready to hear what you are saying or caught off guard then they will mishandle the information and you will be clearly misunderstood and possibly misrepresented to others by them. On the same note it will reveal who you really are and that could possibly damage your relationship with others because you thought you were just being honest. One of the students that I tutor told me that his father told him that he wasn’t college material and this young man was crushed. He wasn’t ready to handle that information and it was communicated the wrong way. I explained to the young man that his father wasn’t saying that he didn’t believe in him he was really challenging him to do better because he knew that his son has great potential but he is not operating fully in that potential. I also explained to him that if he didn’t study hard and continue to make C’s and D’s then if I were his father I wouldn’t pay for college either.
There is a line from an old R&B song that says, “You better be careful what you say to me, because it might turn around on you.” This young man, as a result of his father’s words, thought that his dad didn’t believe in him and that begin to create some distance between them. I had to explain to him that if his father didn’t believe in him he wouldn’t be paying me to help him.
What you say and how you say it may be more important that you think. A snappy response or an unconscious smart or angry reply may present a false representation of who you really are. Words are the least pervasion of the truth so lets be careful how we use them.
Jesse R. Watson Jr.